Why lifting weights or resistance exercises are better for your shape and health than aerobics!



According to web MD:

Studies show that weight lifting over a period of time can help prevent bone loss– and may even help build new bone.

In one study, postmenopausal women who participated in a weight training program for a year saw significant increases in their bone density in the spine and hips, areas affected most by osteoporosis  in older women.

Maintaining strong muscles through weight training helps to keep up your balance and coordination — a critical element in preventing falls, which can lead to osteoporosis-related fractures.

“We lose so much muscle as we age that by the time we’re 70, we only have about 50% to 55% of our muscle mass left,” says Beatrice Edwards, MD, MPH, associate professor of medicine and director of the Bone Health and Osteoporosis Center at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. “That explains why we feel weak and tired as we age, and we can prevent some of that with weight training.”

Weight training also helps keep our bodies from losing its firmness. Women who implement weight training into their regimen  in their 30’s or 40’s and continue on into their later years keep firmer muscles and tighter skin. This helps give them a more youthful appearance. Que Angela Basset lol

The secret to Angela Basset’s ability to freeze time is her workout regimen. She was quoted as saying that she lifts weights a few times a week accompanied by healthy eating and a once a week cheat day!  But the key to her body contour is her weight lifting.  Her muscles never got the chance to atrophy!


Aerobics, on the other hand offers you no resistance to your muscles. This means there is no deterrent for you skin, bones and muscle to age faster because of the aging process.  Aerobics does have its positives. It does help keep your heart and lungs strong.

So live your best life by adding weight lifting or resistance training to your weekly regimen for a gorgeous shape and healthy bones!

Keeping your hair rich and full pass your forties!

As I get older, I notice many of my friends who once had great hair end up with edges snatched and thinning crowns. This is an epidemic of cataclysmic proportions in the afro-american community.  Obviously if most folks knew how to deal with it, they wouldn’t hesitate to fix it. So with that being said let’s have this conversation.  Do you want rich and full hair pass your thirties?  So do most folks. There’s only a few ways to guarantee great hair as you age.  So lets talk about it!



  1.  Vitamins. Here are my list of goto vitamins that has my hair full and strong. Macca root is very good for virility. It helps to give balance.  If you are a man, the same hormones regulate hair loss.   Another nutritional supplement to take is Super Callogen E(ground up cow bones). Along with the ability to  regenerate a small amount of cartilage between the joints, it also helps grow fuller… richer hair! FYI get all these vitamins and supplements  from the  vitamin shoppe! I swear by them and no they don’t sponsor me!

2.  Exercise. Sounds flakey right? Nope exercise release hormones just like vitamins can. Exercise promotes a strong circulatory system which feeds blood to your hair follicles.


3. Water. Water guarantees hydration. For all your bodies systems to work right water is essential! So drink it and spritz it in your hair daily along with a water based conditioner. Seal it in with an oil based sealant such as shea butter or olive oil and voila!!!! Watch your hair grow like wild fire!

What to wear when you dont feel stylish!



As a mom and a business woman on the go, I truly value my time. If I had my way I would spend none of it looking through my closet putting together outfits!  I appreciate all the little things in life and feel perfectly content being low maintenance.

With that said, even I understand that image is important.  So my solution to this dilemma was to minimize my closet! The fewer the outfits, the less decisions I had to make.  Nothing says efficiency like the lack of options!

But how do you choose clothes for this kinda lifestyle? How would it work? Here is what I came up with:

1. Quality fabrics. Choosing pieces that will last requires choosing sturdy fabrics such as nylons, cotton and even suedes. Color fast fabric will also go along way.

2. Timeless styles. This is key. 95% of your wardrobe should be pieces that can  carry you through at least five years of style changes.

3. What suits you! Your own personality should determine the way you dress! Choose colors you feel most confident in. This will serve you much better in the end as opposed to following the latest trends.

  • interested in this look? Go to the urbble store to find it!

When plastic surgery becomes too much…

So there has been this uptick in plastic surgery amongst people of color.  One of the biggest surgeries is buttocks implants.

New ASPS (American Society of Plastic Surgeons) stats showed that 2015 was another year of the rear, as procedures focusing on the derriere dominated surgical growth. Buttock implants were the fastest growing type of cosmetic surgery in 2015, and, overall, there was a buttock procedure every 30 minutes of every day, on average.

Here are the top procedures related to the bottom in 2015:

  • Buttock augmentation with fat grafting (14,705 procedures, up 28 percent from 2014 to 2015)
  • Buttock lift (4,767 procedures up 36 percent from 2014 to 2015)
  • Buttock implants (2,540 procedures up 36 percent from 2014 to 2015)

The pioneers of the “big booty era” are magazines such as “King” and “XXL”.

King magazine is geared toward African-American and urban male audiences. It features articles about hip-hop and R&B as well as sports and fashion. The magazine is published by Townsquare Media and was a spinoff from XXL. The magazine was started in 2002. It ceased publication on March 31, 2009, citing failing ad sales as a result of the poor economy and plans to release monthly installments soon. It resumed publication, this time as a quarterly magazine, in late 2009. It was later suspended again, and the website was sold by Harris Publications to Townsquare Media in 2014.

They paved the way for women of color (of all shades) to flaunt their curves since high fashion magazines and society in general frowned on more voluptuous  and curvy body types.  These magazines were considered a bit seedy but found their place in front of the eyes of passer-byers because of its normalization and placement with other well known magazines.  For roughly a decade these types of magazines came and went but offered a glimpse into the beauty and majesty of women of color.

Today we find ourselves at a cross roads.  The increase of underground surgeries, implant removals and ultimately surgical fatalities has us all pondering When is too much… too much?


In search of a cosmetic surgery procedure that might be less costly than the going rate in the United States, a 43-year-old woman traveled to the Dominican Republic for a “tummy tuck.”

What she got, instead, were massive open sores and an antibiotic-resistant infection that ultimately left her with a deformed abdomen.

And hers is a story far from unique. Medical experts say it should serve as a cautionary tale for Americans who head abroad for cheaper plastic surgery, only to find they’re rolling the dice when it comes to their safety.

The reason? Complications and rare infections resulting from subpar care delivered by some poorly qualified and under-regulated out-of-country physicians and facilities.

“We studied cosmetic procedures, those not covered by medical insurance,” explained study lead author Dr. Dennis Orgill. “People are motivated because of cost, and in some cases because of cultural issues. There are many websites that advertise for these procedures. And the initial costs for these procedures in developing countries is substantially less.

“Some surgeons in these countries are excellent,” Orgill added, “but sometimes it is hard for patients to tell the difference by looking on the internet.” And it’s that inability to properly vet international services, providers and regulations that ultimately gives rise to “a large public health issue,” he warned.

Orgill is medical director of Brigham and Women’s Hospital’s Wound Care Center in Boston. He and his colleagues discussed their findings in the April issue of the journal Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery.

Following several cases of botched plastic surgery in the Dominican Republic, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the U.S. State Department issued alerts warning American patients to steer clear of that country.

That concern was confirmed by the recent review of 78 patients (nearly all women) who had sought care at Brigham and Women’s following plastic surgery performed abroad between 2010 and 2017: three-quarters had undergone procedures in the Dominican Republic.

The review also identified other problematic “medical tourism” destinations, with Colombia and Brazil topping a list that included Mexico, Venezuela, Argentina, El Salvador, China, Syria and Turkey.

All the patients were American residents (average age 43), although many had been born in the country they chose to return to for surgery. More than 60 percent relied on Medicaid as their American insurance.

About 45 percent had undergone a “tummy tuck” (abdominoplasty). A third had gone in for a breast enlargement. Other procedures included a breast lift or reduction (17 percent); liposuction (13 percent); or injections of foreign substances such as silicone (nearly 20 percent). About a quarter underwent multiple procedures.

Following the procedures, nearly 10 percent of the patients sought corrective cosmetic surgery at Brigham and Women’s. About 18 percent had serious infections; 18 percent had persistent pain; 8 percent had scarring; 15 percent had unhealed wounds; and 5 percent had internal scar tissue in their breast. Other issues included hernias, perforated bowels and ruptured implants, the review authors said.

Eight patients had to undergo emergency procedures in the hospital’s emergency room.

One 59-year-old woman experienced kidney failure and developed multiple hernias following abdominal liposuction, also done in the Dominican Republic.

Orgill and his associates concluded that the American College of Surgeons and/or the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) may have to develop guidelines to tackle the issue of plastic surgery tourism. Such guidelines do not yet exist.

Dr. Jeffrey Janis, president of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, stressed that when seeking plastic surgery, it’s important to vet both the physician and the facility.

“The ASPS does not allow you to become a member unless you’ve passed a rigorous training program by the Board of Plastic Surgeons, which attests to the fact that you’ve been well-trained and can safely practice plastic surgery,” he said. “So if you go outside the U.S. you really should seek someone equally qualified.

“And you also don’t want plastic surgery done in a barn, a basement, a tent,” Janis said. “I’m not making those scenarios up. It happens.”

Janis added that “that is not to say that if you travel outside the borders of the U.S. that you’re taking your health into your own hands. That’s not fair. There are plenty of very qualified doctors around the world who can perform procedures. The issue is, has the patient done their homework so they know what they’re getting into?”

Social media models such as the Kardashians and the Hadid sisters has paved the way for the new “urban” styled models to take a strangle hold on the industry.

So were does this leave the women who pioneered this trend?  Back at the bottom of the food chain.  What took them a decade to create, the newer forms of social media took another decade to dismantle.  So once again, women of color (particularly women with darker skinned complexions) struggle to find where they fit into the equation.




Ginger (the Local food of the Gods)


              Ginger root (Zingiber officinale) is well known as a remedy for travel sickness, nausea and indigestion and is used for wind, colic, irritable bowel, loss of appetite, chills, cold, flu, poor circulation, menstrual cramps, dyspepsia (bloating, heartburn, flatulence), indigestion and gastrointestinal problems such as gas and stomach cramps.



According to  WEBMD:

Lab and animal studies have found that ginger may, theoretically:

Clinical evidence shows evidence that ginger may be helpful in lowering blood sugar and blood pressure.

Some people apply ginger compresses to the skin for pain. We don’t know if this works or not.

  • Lessen swelling
  • Lower blood sugar
  • Lower cholesterol
  • Protect against Alzheimer’s disease
  • Prevent blood clotting

There are no known side effects from taking ginger as a regular part of your diet.


Making tea or “steeping roots/leaves”  is the most efficient way to receive the benefits of ginger.  The aroma opens up those sinuses and when you drink it you will notice your circulation improving almost instantly.  Improved circulation has a multiplying affect on the body’s system.  Increased hair and nail growth. Brighter skin and much much more!




Spirituality VS Religiousity

Spirituality may refer to almost any kind of meaningful activity, especially a “search for the sacred.” It may also refer to personal growth, blissful experience, or an encounter with one’s own “inner dimension.”  This definition comes from Wikipedia.

Spirituality is liken to a journey. A perpetual exploration of all things holy and sacred. Where as religion is more of lifestyle steeped in tradition.  Of course there are caveats and this is a serious almost blasphemous over simplification of the two… But this gives you at least point of reference.

I believe that life should be filled with spirituality.  The act of being a moral individual should be forever in perpetual motion. Forever growing.  This to me is a more accurate description of spirituality.


These days I find myself to be less religious than I used to be. Even with that said I believe it was the orthodox religious foundation I had growing up which helped me be the kind of person I am today.  The tenements of the major religions teach love of others over love of self and love of God over all others.  This constant practice and teaching help keep me grounded as I navigated my way thru young adulthood.



Finding decor that speaks to the inner YOU!

This image can be found on digsdigs.com


When choosing décor for your home, you should first think about what colors are most appealing to you. Your home should feel inviting but at the same time speak to your personality.


Well I don’t own my home!  This is the case for many is this current economic downturn. But you can still have the style you want even if you are limited on what you can do.  Some of the best ways to add style to your home is to have a clean pallet and add accents that are fun and match your style!

If your landlord won’t allow for colorful walls, it doesn’t mean that your curtain rods and curtains can’t have a lot of pop!  Its common practice to have beige or off white walls.  Strong African patterns can bring life to any area of the home! And don’t forget your fixtures such as handles and curtain rods.  Use items that are unorthodox or zaney for added fun!


Colorful and textures accent throw pillows!  This is a sure fire way of bringing a little style and pizazz to your home!  Try mix and matching texture in the same color hue!

What I love most about home décor is the idea of making small changes that offer big returns when it comes to a fresh look!

And last but not least… Find a painting or wall accents!  These can be moved from room to room, changed according to the season or put away easily to make room for something completely different!

You can find reasonably priced items like these and many others in our home décor page on urbble.com


Finding a fitness regimen that you can stick with!


It is way more important that you make exercise a permanent part of your life than it is to treat it as a new years resolution or a spare of the moment decision.

That type of mindset will cause you to forget about it after only a few short months.  Exercising is best approached as a lifestyle change and should be treated accordingly.

Finding ways to incorporate it in your life might seem daunting either because of time constraints or lack of desire to work out, which is why I say try the “baby step” approach!


Opt to walk to the store instead of drive! Some of us have stores that are only a few blocks away.  Imagine the joy you would bring your heart (and thighs I might add) if you walked there instead of drive!  Try to incorporate this as much as possible.

If you have a small infant use them as a dumb bell.  YES I SAID IT…. Strap that baby to your body using your baby harness and do your house chores!  The baby will actually find this to be fun! AND you will become more fit!  *We will discuss this more in detail in the homestead category.

Find exercises that fit your personality type!  No one says you have to be a fitness guru.  Just start off doing what you think you will like and take it from there.  Some people enjoy yoga, others weight lifting and other cardio.  Remember… baby steps!


This approach will help you to create an lifestyle change instead of a fly by night fitness frenzy that will only end in short memories of bad workouts!

How to travel the world on a budget!

The keys to traveling the world on a shoe string budget is…..





It is so important to plan your trip far in advance.  Dare I say at least a year!  I know, I know…. A year seems, well… a long time to put something together but trust me when I tell you it is the best way to find the deals you want.  Planning so far ahead allows you to take your time to figure out so many things about your trip!

What season do you want to travel in?

Personally I let the price point tell me when I should travel.  For example going to Spain for a beach trip will cost you more if you want to go during Christmas break from the ole USA.  Since Christmas is peak travel time (and therefore the most expensive time to travel) it is best to leave Christmas travel for folks who don’t care about being taken advantage of when it comes to buying tickets!

“Welcome Traveler! We are happy to have you!”

According to the Washington post a map was created in 2013 which gives you an idea of countries you may want to look at as destinations.  Although this map is outdated, it may still give you a starting point. You’re welcome!  -_<

Places like Hawaii, Dubai and Ireland offer incentives for traveling to those destinations!  Dubai (for example) offers layovers for as long as you would like to stay for a nominal fee!  So lets say you decide to go to SOUTH AFRICA and you fly Emirate Air, after purchasing your tickets you could call the airline and ask to layover for a week in DUBAI then catch your continuing flight after the extended layover!  This way you get to stay in two countries for the price of one!  Can’t beat that with a stick!


So just keep in mind that traveling the world on a shoe string budget might be a little difficult, it should also be noted that such an endeavor is highly rewarded with amazing experiences and memories that last a lifetime.